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Parenting is hard. Perfection is impossible.
And... parenting can be less stressful and more fun.
As parents, we are sometimes confronted with really tough behavior from our kids that leaves us exhausted, overwhelmed, stressed, perplexed and frustrated.
Challenging behaviors can look different for every child, but may include (but, of course, not limited to):
- Acting out
- Excessive irritability, and BIG reactions to small things, going from zero to sixty instantly
- Heightened impulsivity
- Erratic mood swings and/or problems with mood
- Defiance and pushback
- ODD, ADHD diagnoses or tendencies
- Aggressive behaviors, like hitting, biting, pushing
- Sass, talking back, not listening, stonewalling
- Tantrums
- Crying episodes, meltdowns and hysterics
- Checked out, numb, withdrawn, unreachable
And as a result of trying to manage this tough behavior, you might feel like you're walking on eggshells. And your relationship with your partner/spouse/co-parent may be suffering. You might feel anxiety when the phone rings, in case it is another call from school or daycare. You probably feel depleted, stressed and drained, experiencing parental burnout.
I relate so deeply to all of this because I have been there.
But challenging behavior is just the tip of the iceberg.
Nearly 90% of the iceberg lays beneath the waterline, out of sight. And beneath challenging behavior lies the true drivers of behavior, also out of sight, "below the waterline".
Let's get curious.
What if... behavior was a symptom highlighting a challenge your child is struggling with?
What if... behavior was communication? (Not conscious, thoughtful or even effective communication - but the best your child can do at this time.)
What if... behavior was an adaptive response to something that your child was experiencing?
What if... we get curious about what's beneath the behaviors?
Then....everything changes.
When you discover what is beneath a child's challenging behaviors, you view their behavior through a new lens.
And when you do that, you see your child more fully.

The Beneath the Behaviors Approach is based on the latest developments in neuroscience, positive psychology and the science of connection.
Inner Wisdom Parenting, founded by Melissa Holland, M.S., is based in Boulder, CO, and offers online classes and coaching to support parents in responding to their child's challenging behaviors, and helping their child become more calm, connected and cooperative.
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Beneath the Behaviors Approach:
An Introduction with Immediate Benefits

A new lens to view behavior
Discover the philosophy of the "Beneath the Behaviors Approach" in this free, 26 minute masterclass.
You'll never look at your child's challenging behaviors in the same way again... and when you view their behavior differently, everything changes.
For the better.
Access this free masterclass!Positive changes to expect from
the Inner Wisdom approach:

Reduced stress for your child
- Fewer tantrums
- Less defiance and talking back
- Fewer meltdowns

Increased ability for connection
- More agreeability and ease
- More calm, joy and peace
- Better social relationships

Reduced parent stress
- More moments of true connection
- More joy in your relationship
- Less frustration and anger
Courses:
Online, on-demand, available immediately, and available for the lifetime of the program.

Put the Fire Out: Transform Challenging Behaviors
Start here: if the "behavior management" approach worked, it would have worked by now.
Discover a new, body-informed approach, based in neuroscience, to effectively address the root of the behavior.

Beneath the Behaviors: A Deep Dive
Discover what lies beneath your child's challenging behavior. Once you know some of the hidden reasons beneath their behavior, only then can you effectively address it.
Learn three frameworks to help identify those hidden stressors, impacting your child's behavior.

A New View of Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) and What Really Works
The lens we use to view our child's behavior determines our response; let's explore a new way to view their defiant behavior.
Seeing this as a disorder is helpful but also, hurtful. Ultimately, there is a reason for their behavior; let's find out what that is.
Coaching Options:
Managing Meltdowns & Transforming Tantrums: A Parents' Strategy Session
$45
Transform Challenging Behaviors: The New Roadmap to Parenting Today Mentorship Program
$800**
**$450 Founder's Circle pricing until Sept 1, 2023
Enroll in this Program Now!One-on-One Four Months Transforming Behavior Coaching Package
$1600
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About Melissa
Before becoming parents, we imagine the little one holding our hand, toddling along, playing games, and sharing stories. And then, we discover...wow, it can be SO HARD sometimes. I feel you.
What do we do when our child's behavior is off the rails, inexplicable, challenging and sometimes exhausting?
I want to put your mind at ease. Transformation is possible. As a mama, I had to learn the secrets of self-regulation for my son (and myself!), which has truly changed our experience for the better.
And I can teach you too.
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